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The Case of One who Did & One that Did Not!

This Case Study Summary is of two men who were born on the same day and city. One, the son of an Industrialist and the other the son of an employee of the Industrialist. They met when they were in Kindergarten and immediately became inseparable friends & soul mates. Much to the displeasure of the Industrialist who saw that the activities they were into, had a real passion for and derived great joy & happiness, did not fit his plans of grooming his son to one day take over his empire. That by grade 3 he put  his son in a Private School to minimize as much as possible the "Bad Influences" & the "Useless Activities" he enjoyed so much with his friend. His son did graduate from a prestigious business school that had prepared him to take over the business one day. However he did so without much joy or sense of accomplishment. It was just a Mechanical thing to do to please his father! He always felt to be in the shadows of others and never the self esteem joy of feeling really good about himself like when he and his childhood friend did things that made them feel really special.

The employee of the Industrialist on the other hand, by accident or design, did not discourage but encouraged these activities that brought so much self esteem happiness to his son. His father was just happy to see his son happy at whatever he did! In University he did not take a rigid program that would lead to a specific career opportunity. He took courses for the pure pleasure of acquiring knowledge in things he found interesting. Upon graduating his father got him an entry level position were he worked and his childhood friend, that he had hardly seen since then,  was already a VP. Within months his immediate supervisors began to really value his contribution with promotions. The Aura of being very happy in who he was, without ego. The power to have people really listen, appreciate and happily follow what he had to say! The knack to make people feel important and work together to solve problems!

Within a few years the Industrialist realized that his son's childhood activities he stopped and the forced separation of his son from his childhood soul mate was a mistake. He promoted his son friend to VP with instruction to work very close with his son. Hoping to rekindle those activities they so joyously shared in childhood.

Mind/Body Communication
Our thoughts and feelings influence the body via two kinds of mechanisms: the nervous system and the circulatory system. These are the pathways of communication between the brain and the rest of the body.

The brain reaches into the body via the nervous system. This allows it to send nerve impulses into all the body's tissues and influence their behavior. The brain can thus affect the behavior of the immune system with its nerve endings extending into the bone marrow (the birthplace of all white cells), the thymus, the spleen, and the lymph nodes.

It also reaches into all the glands of the endocrine system, all the bones, muscles, all the internal organs, and even the walls of veins and arteries. It can influence the behavior of the heart with its nerves penetrating the heart tissue, affecting heart rate and other aspects of the heart's functioning. The entire body is literally "wired" by the brain.

The brain is also a gland. It manufactures thousands of different kinds of chemicals and releases them into the bloodstream. These chemicals circulate throughout the body and influence the activity and behavior of all the body's tissues. The brain could be described as the ultimate apothecary, producing many more drugs than science has ever invented.

The cells of the body have receptors on their surfaces that function somewhat like satellite dishes. These receptors receive the chemical messages being released by the brain and respond accordingly.

Finally, the mind/body connection is a two-way street. In addition to sending messages into the body's tissues, it also receives feedback, both in the form of nerve impulses and its own receptors that sense what chemicals are being released by other tissues in the body.

Research into how the brain can influence immune responses has given rise to the new field called psycho-neuro-immunology (PNI). Findings in this field have brought great hope to people dealing with such difficult illnesses as cancer, AIDS, CFIDS (chronic fatigue immune dysfunction syndrome), and other immune-related diseases.

It is only a matter of time before similar acronyms are defined for other fields such as psycho-neuro-cardiology (PNC), the study of the mind-heart connection, or psycho-neuro-hematology (PNH), the study of how the mind can influence bloodrelated disorders, such as clotting problems in hemophilia.

The Power of the Mind/Body Connection
One of the most stirring stories about the power of the mind/body connection concerns a man diagnosed with terminal cancer. Reported by Dr. Bruno Klopfer in the Journal of Projective Techniques in 1957, it involved a man with metastatic cancer and tumors that had spread throughout his body. The patient had tried every available form of medicine and his condition had hopelessly deteriorated to the point where he was bedridden and gasping for air. His doctors agreed that he had only a few days to live. Then the man heard about an experimental drug called Krebiozen, which was in the process of being tested. He insisted on being included in the experimental trials. His doctors, feeling he had nothing to lose and would soon be dead anyway, out of compassion agreed to give him the experimental drug. To their amazement, the man's tumors soon began to shrink dramatically and he was discharged from the hospital.

Two months later, the man read news accounts of the research on Krebiozen that reported serious doubts with the drug. Within a matter of days, the man's tumors had returned and were again threatening his life. His doctor cleverly convinced him that new and more potent shipment had been received and proceeded to give him injections of plain water. His tumors once again began to shrink dramatically. He remained healthy for seven more months until another news report declared "Nationwide AMA Tests Show Krebiozen to Be Worthless as a Cancer Treatment." The man died within two days.

The Stress Response
The stress response is a set of changes in the body that result when the person experiences what they perceive to be a challenging or threatening situation. This matter of perceived threat is important because the effects of the stress response on the body are the same whether the threat is real or just imagined in the mind.

The magnitude of these changes is influenced by how serious the person thinks the situation is and what they think about their ability to handle the threat effectively (their appraisal of their ability to respond). Of course, the more confident the person is in their ability to handle a challenge easily, the less stress is involved. The more the person appraises the challenge as a threat—even at the subconscious level—the more intense will be the stress response.

Commonly called the fight-or-flight reaction, the stress response has the beneficial effect of preparing the body to function at a higher level of efficiency, which of course enhances the likelihood of survival. The physiological changes include:

* Increased blood pressure
* Increased respiratory rate
* Increased heart rate
* Increased oxygen consumption (burning of fuel)
* Increased blood flow to skeletal muscles
* Increased perspiration
* Increased muscle tone 

While all these changes clearly contribute to one's ability to fight or flee in an emergency, they also have a downside. If the person is experiencing the stress response regularly and for extended periods of time, these physiological changes have the effect of weakening the body's resistance to illness and lowering the effectiveness of its mechanisms of self-repair.

The Relaxation Response
Another key principle is the relaxation response, which was discovered and named by Herbert Benson, M.D., and his colleagues in 1974.7,8 They were studying a pattern of physiological changes that occurs in people practicing transcendental meditation (TM).

This pattern of changes has been found to represent a very beneficial state, one that is virtually a mirror image of the stress response. The relaxation response includes the following changes:

* Reduced blood pressure
* Reduced respiratory rate
* Reduced heart rate
* Reduced oxygen consumption (burning of fuel)
* Reduced blood flow to skeletal muscles
* Reduced perspiration
* Reduced muscle tension 

The relaxation response is an antidote to the effects of the stress response and it has also been found to enhance the effectiveness of the body's defenses and self-repair mechanisms. Regular practice of techniques that elicit this response also brings improved emotional well-being and better handling of stressful life events.

The relaxation response is a physiological state, not a technique as such. As we shall see later, there are many techniques that can be used to produce it and, indeed, learning to do this is at the heart of mind/body medicine.

Coping, Emotions, and Health
Researchers have identified how the ways we cope with emotions and stressful situations—our coping styles—can influence our physical health. Most firmly established are the links between coronary heart disease and the Type A behavior pattern. Type A is a way of coping characterized by constant hurriedness, intense competitiveness, and free-floating hostility.

A more recent concept is the Type C pattern, which in many ways is the polar opposite of Type A. It involves the non-expression of anger and other unpleasant emotions such as fear and sadness, unassertive and overly appeasing behavior in relationships with others, and a preoccupation with meeting the needs of others, often to the point of extreme self-sacrifice. The theory of the Type C pattern was put forward by Lydia Temoshok, Ph.D., a leading health psychologist and PNI researcher. She has found compelling evidence for a link between emotional expressiveness and the progression of cancer.

The middle ground, or Type B. is considered a more balanced way of coping that involves appropriate expression of all emotions and the ability to meet one's own needs while responding to those of others. People who cope in this more balanced way tend to be less at risk for serious illness. The cultivation of these behaviors is often a goal in mind/body medicine programs, especially for heart disease and cancer.

Lifestyle Change
The use of mind/body medicine takes place within a broader context of changing one's lifestyle to promote health. Making a daily practice of mind/body techniques is but one of several areas of lifestyle change that work together in a synergistic way. Other areas include proper diet, exercise, and social support.

While the health benefits of diet and exercise are obvious, there is a growing body of research now indicating that supportive interpersonal relationships are strongly associated with better health. They seem to ameliorate or buffer the harmful effects of stress on the body.

Turning Down the Pressure
Alice, suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS), undertook a two-week intensive treatment of intravenous Acyclovir therapy in the hospital. Acyclovir is a drug that inhibits the reproduction of herpes viruses, a family of viruses thought to be cofactors in CFS. One of the side effects of this therapy is elevated blood pressure, which needs to be closely monitored.

Alice was about halfway through her treatment protocol when she enrolled in a group mind/body medicine program. She brought her stainless steel drip apparatus with her from the hospital and stood it up beside her in the circle with the other patients and their spouses.

The first day involved a series of relaxation and deep breathing exercises. The next day Alice returned to the group bubbling with excitement. She reported that the previous evening her blood pressure had returned to normal. The nursing staff were mystified and wanted to know how she had done it

The Mind-Body Connection – Health is a state of Mind! by Tad James

In the past 5 years, there is exciting news in the field of disease. Old concepts on the nature of consciousness, and on the nature of the body are changing. We have been using many of these concepts in Time Line Therapy™ for some time now, and many of these concepts are new. Let me warn you in advance, that this article may change your viewpoint about your mind and your body. It has a potential to be controversial. This change in the structure of our belief systems is necessary to affect a change in the way we assist people in healing themselves and others.

Some of the more exciting conceptual work on the healing process has been done by a medical doctor in Massachusetts. Deepak Chopra is one of the new breed of health care practitioners who is speaking out, and in a way that will change how we view the mind and the body. Chopra's credentials are impressive. He is an endocrinologist, and former chief of staff of the New England Memorial Hospital in Stoneham, Massachusetts. Chopra calls himself a quantum biologist, which means the application of quantum physics to biology. He says that the body is a quantum mechanical device, and that it is subject to the laws of quantum physics and not Newtonian physics. If you aren't aware of the meaning of these terms yet, please take every means to find out.

In Quantum Healing, 1986, Chopra gave us a new paradigm for how the body handles its own rejuvenation processes. How often does the body renew itself? Older wisdom had it pegged at around seven years. Chopra has revised that estimate downward to roughly one year (approximately 98% totally renewed). Based on the estimates of quantum biology, you have a brand new stomach lining every 4 days, new skin every 30 days, a new liver in 6 weeks, even the skeleton is replaced every three months. These concepts are vital as we structure the metaphors for treatment while we work with our clients in the healing process.

Another of the more important notions of quantum biology is that consciousness is not localized to any one place. Is there any evidence for this?

Neuropeptides: Twenty years ago a group of scientists discovered in the brain, a set of chemicals known as neuropeptides. Neuro because they are found in the brain, and peptides because they are protein like molecules. So every time you have a thought or a feeling, a desire, an instinct, or a drive, each of these affects our nervous system by means of specific messenger molecules called neuropeptides.
There are receptors to these neuropeptides not only in brain cells but also in cells of the immune system. So when the scientists began looking at the various immune system cells that protect us from cancer and infection (t-cells, for example), they found that there were receptors to these same neuropeptides in those cells. In fact, the word neuropeptide became obsolete, because they're not confined to the brain. They are floating around in the bloodstream and going to all our different organs. Since there are receptors to these neuropeptides in cells in the immune system, then it becomes obvious that, as Chopra says, "The immune system is constantly eavesdropping on our internal dialog." In NLP we would add the following comment, "The immune system is constantly responding to the pictures, sounds, feelings, smells, tastes, and the internal dialog that we hold in our mind."

The Unconscious Mind: Since the unconscious mind (also known as the "body mind") is the controlling intelligence in the body, it is also the connection between the mind and the immune system. One of the major theories of Time Line Therapy™, NLP, and Hypnosis is that the unconscious mind can communicate with any part of the body at any time it so desires, and can, in this way, stimulate the healing process. It seems that there is, in fact, neurological evidence for this idea.

Every thought, every emotion, every desire, every internal representation you have is monitored, overheard, viewed. Your immune system is watching, listening, feeling! It has been shown that grieving people have grieving immune cells. If the grieving goes on for a prolonged period of time, then the immune system has also the self talk of, "Leave me alone, I don't want to be bothered." Such people are, according to Chopra, susceptible to cancer and other infectious diseases.
That is why it's so important to understand that negative emotions which are trapped in the body are not conducive to health, and why we release all of a person's negative emotions when we do healing processes in Time Line Therapy™ techniques.

The Significant Emotional Experience: Many mental and physical dis-eases are preceded by a significant emotional experience (SEE) of a negative nature which may appear in the person's recent past, or even further in the past, such as during childhood. If negative, and depending on the intensity, the SEE has the potential to create or be the source of some emotional, mental or even physical dis-ease occurring in the body.
Let's define some terms so that we are speaking the same language: (I borrow the notion of an SEE from the sociologist Dr. Morris Massey, in the book The People Puzzle.) First event means the very first time that an experience happens, or the root cause of a first event occurring (this is also called root cause). Significant emotional experience is any major, fully associated, highly charged emotional event wherever it occurs. Emotional chain is the process that the unconscious mind uses to connect experiences of a similar nature. (The term used in Time Line Therapy and The Basis of Personality [1988, Tad James, M.S., Ph.D.] is gestalt which means a collection of memories around a certain subject.)
The potential of a negative SEE to create dis-ease is based on the trapped emotions which remain in the memory because they are stored in the body. The work of Dr. Paul Goodwin, a neural physicist at Alaska Pacific University, implies that the trapped emotions in the body have the possibility of creating functional (software, non-physical) boundaries which can impede the flow of nerve information through the neural network pathways.

Testing Memories for Negative Emotions: You can tell if there are still any negative emotions in one of your past memories by going back to that memory, and remembering what happened looking through your own eyes. (Warning: Do not try this with memories which contain trauma or phobia.) If, as you remember the memory, you feel any negative emotions in your body, then there is a negative emotional content to the memory, and there is trapped emotion in your body. The trapped negative emotion, if you feel it, is the basis for dis-ease.

Getting Rid of the Negative Emotions: Now, other than dis-ease, why get rid of negative emotions which are trapped in one's body? Well, for example, imagine a salesperson, (s)he has a dream, (s)he's well trained, knows how to sell, and (s)he wants to make more money. But every time (s)he goes to close the sale, fear comes up. That salesperson is not going to do his or her best. Certainly the closing ratio will not be as high as it could be without the fear.
Now imagine that same salesperson without the fear. Which one do you thing will do better? Of course, the second one.

Or in a relationship, perhaps you once got hurt, and so you said, "I'm never going to let that happen to me again." So every time you get to a certain point in the relationship you begin to feel those old negative feelings, and so you end the relationship. More importantly, each relationship ends in exactly the same way each time. You may not even remember the source of the negative feelings, but at a certain point there they are, and the relationship ends.
Now imagine being without those negative emotions, do you think that it would improve the relationship? Of course.

Obviously, the creation of dis-ease requires more trapped negative emotions than those in the situations we've just discussed. However, the process is the same--the unconscious mind represses (to whatever extent it needs to) memories with unresolved negative emotions. It does this for the "sanity" of the conscious mind. Since the unconscious mind does repress the memories with the negative emotions in them, the emotions get stuck in the body and aren't released.

Time Line Therapy has the potential of releasing the trapped emotion in memories in a very short period of time. In fact, we usually release most of a person's negative emotions in the Secret of Creating Your Future® Seminars which we give all over the United States, Canada, United Kingdom and Australia. My experience with the now thousands of people of all walks of life is that it is possible to release all of a person's negative emotions from past memories in as little as five hours. That release of negative emotions has a profound effect on the person.

This happened to one of the students in a recent Secret of "Creating Your Future" Seminar. After the seminar, I learned she had been severely abused as a child and had, for most of her life, been depressed. At times she was also suicidal. She had visited psychologists and psychiatrists on and off for most of her life.
During the seminar, she paid close attention to releasing her major negative emotions, including sadness and depression, the trauma from the abuse and a number of her limiting decisions from the past. Her experience after the weekend was that she was no longer able to access the feelings of depression. In fact, when I saw her two weeks later, she came running up to me and said, "Do you know I haven't been depressed for the last two weeks, at all? And do you know what else, I seem to be laughing for no reason at all!"
 

Mind/Body Medicine
Italian psychologist Dr. Roberto Assagioli left us two remarkable pieces of writing, Psychosynthesis and The Act of Will. In those books, Assagioli brought his remarkable intelligence to bear on the entire subject of human potential and human happiness. He studied the mind and personality for his entire lifetime, and he came up with several ideas that are profoundly simple and powerfully effective in helping you and me to lead happier, more satisfying lives. In The Act of Will, he laid out a series of psychological principles, or laws, that can be very helpful to you in understanding the way your mind works and how you can take control of it.

The third of Assagioli's laws is that images or pictures, either from within or from the outside, will trigger thoughts and feelings consistent with them. In turn, those thoughts and feelings will trigger behaviors that lead to the realization of the pictures. For example, when you become absolutely convinced that you are a total winner and you are meant to be a complete success in anything that you really want to do, every picture or image that you see that somehow represents winning to you will trigger thoughts of what you could do to achieve that same state. The picture will also trigger the feeling of excitement that will motivate you to take action.

Assagioli's fourth law is that thoughts, feelings and images trigger the words and actions consistent with them. This is another way of saying that your inner impressions will motivate you to pursue the outer activities that will move you toward the achievement of your goals.

Assagioli's fifth law is that your actions will trigger thoughts, emotions and images consistent with them. That has been referred to as the Law of Reversibility. It is one of the most important success principles ever discovered.

Sandra Donaldson

Sandra Donaldson clinical background is in kinesiology where she worked in orthopaedics for 5 years. She then crossed over to work in clinical research where she has been working for over 10 years. Sandra has worked at University Hospital (London), Princess Margaret and Women's College Hospitals. She is now working as a clinical research project manager in paediatric orthopaedic clinical trials in Toronto.

Anyone who wants to learn more about mind-body medicine, and other complementary and alternative health care, should check out the Integrative Health Institute (IHI) at Mount Royal College in Calgary.
www.mtroyal.ca/integrativehealth/index.shtml
 

The Institute opened on Feb. 2, 2005, and is Canada’s first post-secondary institute dedicated to advancing complementary and alternative health education and research, and integrating treatments into existing health practices.



Mind-body medicine uses the power of the mind to influence physical health. It’s not what you think. There are no granola-crunching hippies here. Researchers are confirming the beneficial effects of these healing practices, some that date back more than 2,000 years.

Mind-body medicine has had a positive influence on patients with heart attacks, cancer, insomnia, surgery, headaches and chronic low back pain. The goal of this alternative medicine is to complement conventional care, not replace it. Mind-body therapies include guided imagery, hypnosis, biofeedback, cognitive behavioural therapy and meditation.

In this 24-7 world, multi-tasking has become a way of life. In contrast, meditation focuses on simplicity, the here and now. The two most common types of meditation are transcendental, repeating a silent word, and mindfulness, observing thoughts and emotions as they arise.

A guru in this field, Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn PhD, has recently published Coming to Our Senses, Healing Ourselves and the World through Meditation. Kabat-Zinn emphasizes that lack of attention to the body’s signs and symptoms can lead to disease, or dis-ease. Meditation sessions frequently start with body scanning to identify areas of tension or pain, and use breathing exercises to bring relief.

Guided imagery uses visualization and imagination to produce a state of relaxation. Using as many senses as possible improves the effect. For example, picture yourself lying on a beach, feeling the warmth of the sun, listening to the waves as they wash ashore, the scent of cocoa butter sunscreen rising from your skin.

The mind responds to what it sees. In reality, you may be sitting at a computer in a windowless office. But if your mind truly believes you are on a beach somewhere, your body will respond, your heart rate will slow and breathing will deepen.

Hypnosis speaks to the sub-conscious and involves three stages:

* Absorption, or intense concentration on an object.
* Dissociation – experiences are interpreted outside the normal conscious awareness (due to absorption in first stage).
* Suggestibility, or accepting input from the therapist without censor or criticism. 

Once under hypnosis, the therapist can suggest ways of achieving specific goals such as reducing anxiety or fear. Preliminary research on childbirth shows that hypnosis is useful in treating pain and reducing the length of labour.

Biofeedback uses devices that monitor physiologic response such as heart rate or muscle activity. While being guided through relaxation exercises, patients are able to monitor their progress visually or auditorily, using flashing lights or beeping sounds.

After a certain number of sessions, the goal is for patients to achieve relaxation without the use of technology. For example, an EEG (electroencephalogram) monitors the brain waves associated with different mental states, such as restless sleep or deep sleep.

Cognitive behavioural therapy uses the cognitive process to shape experience. It implies that difficult emotions such as anxiety or depression are the result of faulty thinking. For example, patients with phobias believe they are in danger when they aren’t. A therapist would teach patients to restructure their fearful thought patterns, allowing them to see a less biased view of the world.

Use of several mind-body therapies to treat one condition is quite common and there tends to be overlap between the different therapies. Meditation can involve the use of guided imagery, or biofeedback training can include relaxation techniques. Regardless of the condition, a multi-therapy approach seems to provide the greatest benefit.

Heart attack patients experienced success using mind-body therapies, in combination with nutrition and exercise, as part of a cardiac rehabilitation program. Research involving over 12,000 patients focused on self-regulation skills such as relaxation and management of anger or hostility.

Over 6,000 cancer patients dealing with disease- and treatment-related symptoms showed positive results when using relaxation, hypnosis and supportive group therapy. These mind-body therapies improved mood, quality of life and coping skills.

Patients who are apprehensive about upcoming surgery can calm down. Mind-body therapies such as relaxation, guided imagery and instructional interventions can be used as part of presurgical preparation. These techniques were most effective in decreasing medication use, length of stay in hospital and recovery time.

Insomniacs can find relief through muscle relaxation and behavioural therapies, such as stimulus control. Mind-body therapies can also be helpful in late-life insomnia (difficulty staying asleep). A study found that cognitive-behavioural therapy reduced the number of awakenings and time spent awake. This therapy was more successful than medication, as the effects lasted up to two years following treatment.

Recurrent migraine headaches respond to a combination of relaxation and thermal biofeedback. Tension headaches benefit from relaxation or muscle biofeedback. These therapies can be combined with pain medication or work on their own.

Chronic low back pain works well with multi-component mind-body therapies such as stress management, coping skills or cognitive restructuring. Results on 1,300 patients support these therapies in combination with medical management.

Additional references:

Rational integration of pharmacologic, behavioural and rehabilitation strategies in the treatment of chronic pain by Gallagher RM. Am J Phys Med Rehabil. March 2005; 84(3Suppl):S64-76.

Integrative oncology: complementary therapies for pain, anxiety, and mood disturbance by Deng G, and Cassileth BR. CA Cancer J Clin. 2005 Mar-Apr; 55(2):109-16.

Mind-Body Medicine: state of the science, implications for practice by John A. Astin et al. J Am Board Fam Pract 16, 131-147 (2003).

 

A Starter Guide To Self Improvement - By John Edmond

Staying calm, composed and maintaining strong self esteem in today's tough environment can be difficult but is not impossible if you follow a few simple guidelines. Here are 6 tips you can use as a starter guide to self improvement. Everything and everyone else around you can affect your self esteem. Other people can deliberately or inadvertently damage your self image. Unchecked people and circumstances can ultimately destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won't even notice. Don't let these influences get the best of you. But what should you avoid? 1 : A Negative Work Environment Beware of a "dog eat dog" environment where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive and working extra is expected and not rewarded. In this environment no one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch, dinner, and stay at work late into the night. Unless you are very fortunate most of the time you will work too hard with no help from others around you. This type of atmosphere will ruin your self esteem. This is not just healthy competition, at its worst it is brutal and very damaging. 2: Other Peoples Behaviour Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers - whatever you want to call them, all have one thing in common - an overriding desire to prosper at the expense of others. Avoid them and do not be tempted to join them. They may get some short term advantage with their behaviour but deep down most are very insecure, unhappy and ashamed of their behaviour. For most their self esteem disappeared a long time ago. Seeing someone like this prosper is sickening but do not join them - you are better than that! 3: A Changing Environment In today's fast moving society it is difficult if not impossible to avoid change. Changes challenge our paradigms and tests our flexibility, adaptability and alter the way we think. Changes can make your life difficult and may cause stress but, if it's inevitable, you must accept it, don't fight it and in time find ways to improve your life. Try to manage change and try to avoid multiple changes at the same time. If a particular change can't be avoided welcome it. Change will be with us forever, we must learn to live with it. 4: Past Experience We all carry "baggage" - past experiences which have moulded us to who we are today, but some people live in their past experiences - usually something that hurt and still hurts. It's okay to cry out when you experience pain but don't let pain dominate your life as it will transform itself into fears and phobias. If something painful happens, or has happened to you, find a way to minimise the effects. Discuss it with a friend, a family member or a professional if necessary and move on. Don't let it continue to dominate your life and dictate your future actions. Because something bad has happened doesn't mean it will happen again. Learn what you can from any bad experience and move on. 5: Negative World View The television news is full of doom and gloom and it is true that around the world there are many people suffering war, famine or other natural or man-made disasters. Whilst I do not suggest you should not care and do nothing, remember that there are many beautiful positive things happening too. Don't wrap yourself up with all the negative aspects around the world. Learn to look for beauty too for, in building self esteem, we must learn how to be positive in a negative world. 6: Determination Theory Are we a product of our biological inherited characteristics (nature) or a result of the influences we absorb throughout out lives (nurture)? I believe how we are is due to a mixture of both nurture and nature and as a result our behavioural traits are not fixed. Whilst it is true that some things are dictated by genetics (for example race, color and many inherited conditions) your environment and the people in your life have a major effect on your behaviour. You are your own person, you have your own identity and make your own choices. The characteristics your mother or father display are not your destiny. Learn from other people's experience, so you don't suffer the same mistakes. Are some people are born leaders or positive thinkers? I don't believe so. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing on positive experiences for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. No-one will come to you and give you permission to build your self esteem and improve your self. It is in your control. It can be hard to keep positive, especially when others and circumstances seem to be conspiring to pull you down. You need to protect yourself and give yourself a chance to stay positive. Improving your self esteem gives you that protection. One way to stay positive is to minimise your exposure to harmful influences while using affirmations to boost the positive influences in your life. Constantly reminding yourself of the good things in your life will keep the impact of negative influences to a minimum.
About the Author

John Edmond has 4 grown up and successful children and recently obtained a creative writing degree. He now writes on a number of topics including Building Self Esteem. To improve your self esteem get your free copy of The Affirmware 7 Part Affirmation Course now.
 

John Edmond is 51 and lives in Manchester in the UK and worked in insurance and finance for many years. He recently returned to education and graduated university with a degree in Creative Writing and Writing for Performance. He now writes full time for a number of web sites.

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Over the past ten years, mind body medicine has been revolutionizing the way we think about our health. Millions of people are discovering that their thoughts, their feelings, and their physical well being are intimately connected- and this is transforming the way we eat, exercise, work, and even relate to one another.

Since the time of the ancient Greeks, Western medicine has looked at the body from a materialistic perspective, and approached every problem with a material-based solution such as drugs and surgery. 

But, through the insights of Dr. Deepak Chopra, David Simon, and other pioneers of mind body medicine, it’s become evident that if we want to change who we are, we need to simply move in new directions, open our experiences to new interpretations, and awaken our senses to the new perceptions that await us.

Most of us tend to assume that body and spirit are at opposite ends of the spectrum. But according to the discoveries of quantum physics, the body is actually a swirling mass of constantly changing energy. It has more in common with what we think of as “spirit” than what we think of as matter.

Dr. Chopra merges modern science with spirituality to demonstrate how verifiable scientific evidence closely supports ancient metaphysical traditions. And how applying this knowledge can impact all areas of your life. He believes that you can align the energy of your physical body with the energy of the universe, and that by doing this you tap into an infinite reservoir of intelligence. 

This intelligence is the “higher self.” The higher self is the “you” inside of you—the living force that grows and changes in your body throughout your time on earth. It is the “you” behind all of the defenses and images you have created for yourself…the you that really knows why you are here, what it is you need, and how you can get it.

By transcending to your personal core, the higher self, you discover your true nature—a blissful self of infinite worth.

PumpYourAura has discovered a Key to this State!

The spiritual needs we all have for love, compassion, meaningfulness, total acceptance, devotion and inner peace are not grand goals to be achieved in a distant time and place. They exist here and now and exert powerful influences on our lives. Only be transcending to the higher self can you achieve total, spontaneous fulfillment of these needs.

In The Higher Self, you can:
• eliminate fear and other obstacles to spiritual growth
• rejoin the stream of life through willingness and trust
• utilize more fully the true solver of problems—intuition
• untangle pain from suffering
• liberate your emotional body
• experience infinite worth
• learn to heal as a conscious activity
• establish a relationship with your personal and cosmic mind
• break the circular trap of addictions and find new pleasures that surpass them
• develop a quiet mind that can experience the truth of this new reality
•accessing the body’s unlimited natural pharmacy, the key to perfect health and total well-being

Are you an active and positive force—one who creates reality? You’ll come to realize that at the level of the higher self—you are a force with the power to renew your life at every moment.

By learning to balance the material, psychological and spiritual levels of your being, you’ll learn to experience the higher self. You’ll become a peaceful, unified, harmonious, whole person.

•Retard and even reverse the biological aging process
•Create a delicious, uncomplicated, balanced diet that will give you incredible energy and vitality
•Activate your body’s amazing, natural “inner pharmacy”
•Relax and heal yourself
•Produce desired states of being and improve health
•Dramatically reshape and revitalize your body

Training the Mind, Healing the Body offers a uniquely comprehensive approach to all aspects of the mind body connection,

· Integrate the healing traditions of the East with the latest practical discoveries of Western science
· Change the way you eat-or even when you eat-to create greater mental and physical energy
· Sleep well every night
· Identify what makes you uniquely different from anyone who has ever lived as well as what you share with all of humanity
· Exercise better, not harder
· Enter the silent spaces between your thoughts to create a rejuvenating sense of alertness
·Understand how the process of disease really works, and how you can break the progression that leads to illness
· Use your heart as well as your brain to make insightful choices and accurate life decisions
· Increase your personal efficiency by discovering the best times of day for mental and physical activities
·Discover the intimate connection between your physical body and your emotional and spiritual well-being.

Discover the Life-Giving Powers You Now Possess!
A Perfect Balance of Mind, Body and Spirit Is Your Birthright.

A Brief Interview with Deepak Chopra, M.D.


NIGHTINGALE-CONANT: Dr. Chopra, in simple terms, can you tell us how the mind-body connection works?
DR. CHOPRA: Your body is a 3-D projection of your current state of mind. Your slightest shift of mood is picked up by every cell, which means that you do not think with your brain alone – all 50 trillion cells in your body actively share your thoughts. At the level of the quantum mechanical body, you are a constantly flowing river of intelligence.

NIGHTINGALE-CONANT: How powerful is the mind-body connection?
DR. CHOPRA: Correctly channeled, it has enormous power – the power to make us sick or well, depressed or joyful, sluggish or dynamic. The mind-body connection is the gateway to unlimited creativity and happiness. Unfortunately, our society has not taught us how to use it.

NIGHTINGALE-CONANT: How can an individual make the mind-body connection work in his or her behalf?
DR. CHOPRA: First, you must tap into it. To tap it, you must realize that you are not bound by the limitations of your body or mind. Intelligence is inherent in everything. You are pure potential waiting to be activated. That is the real you. And until you break free of your imaginary boundaries, the product of years of false conditioning, you cannot be totally free.
Drawing on a unique combination of modern science and the wisdom of Ayurveda, India’s “ancient science of life,” I teach you how to achieve freedom beyond all boundaries. My goal is not to show you how to break down walls but how to fly over them.

We project our awareness into the universe like a lighthouse. Every thought you have is felt by everything in existence. Can we afford not to take full advantage of that fact?
To think that you occupy just a few cubic feet of space is pure illusion. I try to get people to break this illusion. Once you have the deepest insight – I am the universe – nature can deny you nothing!

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Midlife should be celebrated as the most exciting, promising time in a woman’s life. The constraints and inexperience of youth are behind you. Your responsibilities have shifted away from others, and towards your own health and well-being. The years ahead hold possibilities of new challenges, opportunities for growth and change, and chances to explore parts of yourself that may have been silent for years.

Best of all, you’re greeting this incredible time with a wealth of hard-earned knowledge and wisdom you didn’t have when you were younger.

At midlife, you stand on the threshold of an entirely new world. It is an opportunity to experience unprecedented health, creativity, freedom, and passion — not a cause for dread, apprehension, and fear. Renewal will give you the practical advice and uplifting insight you need to seize these opportunities, and create a healthy, balanced lifestyle today and beyond

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other useful site to visit

 http://mentalhealth.about.com/od/mindbody/

http://nccam.nih.gov/health/backgrounds/mindbody.htm

www.healthy.net/wellness/mindbody/